Why I Don’t Want A Soulmate

 

I wrote this post a few weeks ago and feel it’s only fitting to share now during Valentine’s Day Weekend when everyone’s Facebook and Instagram feeds are filling up with cutesy, lovey dovey photos of their significant others. Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

Soulmate vs. Spirit-mate: Should we connect with others with our souls (mind, will and emotions) or with our spirits?

Countless times I’ve come across love stories and tales of people who wish to find their “soulmate”. I’ve also come across people who claim to find their ‘soulmates’ yet don’t end up spending the rest of their lives with them? Why?

How many times have you heard that if it’s meant to be, it will be? If there is such a person as a soulmate, someone you connect with so deeply – why wouldn’t God want us to end up with them?

Ecclesiastes 4:12 - And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 – And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Understanding the concept of a soulmate makes me look at what a “soul” really is.  Our soul is made up of our minds (what I think), will (what I choose) and emotions (what I feel).  When you find a soul mate – what you’re really finding is someone who connects with you mentally, willfully  and emotionally. But what about spiritually? Does this person connect with you on a Spiritual level? Are they connected to you as you connect with God? The bible says a 3-cord rope is not easily broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12) You, your mate and God = not easily broken.  

While we may feel “complete” when we connect with someone’s soul – if we don’t connect on the spirit realm, there will always be something missing.  I’ve learned that there’s a God-shaped hole in my heart that no “soulmate” can fill.

You, Me and GodNow I am not saying it’s not good to connect with people on the soul level — that is still important. But as believers, our goal in everything is to glorify God in all we do. And that’s something I believe happens first on the Spirit level – a MUCH deeper level than the soul.  As we become yoked with one another, that goal never changes. Think about my triangle diagram. As you and your soulmate grow toward God, you actually grow toward each other. Therefore, I believe as a single woman..it’s BETTER to look for a Spirit Mate and NOT just a soulmate. A spirit mate will understand my need to put God first in everything (even before Him) AND vice versa. And as we grow toward our Lord, we end up growing closer to each other. Do you agree? If you’re married, single or anything in between, please let me know you comments below!

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 Lord, help us to seek out Your ways as you direct our paths. Lord, if it  is your will, lead us to our Spirit-mates – the one you designed for us who connects not just to our minds, will and emotions but to our spirits as well. —AMEN

#SpiritMate Not #Soulmate

The Holy Spirit Will Guide Us On Who To Love and Marry

The Holy Spirit Will Guide Us On Who To Love and Marry

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